Am I Making the Right Decision?
This question is not the exclusive purview of philosophers and mental health practitioners. It has always been a hot topic and many of us chew our nails to the nubs while making decisions that involve a major issue in our life such as relationships, health care, family problems, the purchase of a house, etc. After we reach a conclusion, we oftentimes continue to second-guess it, especially when as now, circumstances are aggravated by difficult economic times that have a bearing on many of these situations.
In the T&I profession there are key decisions as well, that impact our lifestyle and need to be confronted. Among others, they include questions such as educational choices, what work aspect of language to focus on, what is best for me, a freelancer or employee position? What remuneration should I seek? Is there value in volunteering my services to a trade association, etc.
Being a rational MBA and a long-time spiritual seeker, I have one foot planted firmly in both of these camps, and I follow a balanced procedure I devised that I would like to share with you as it has proven invaluable to me over the years. Start out by not believing everything you think prior to undergoing the process.
- The first step is to research the matter. The most generalized search you will do will be probably be on Google but rather than typing in a simple phrase, learn the search conventions for advanced searches which are very simple to do and will save you a lot of time. Please note that there are similar tips for advanced searches on other platforms such as additional search engines, FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, Flickr, etc.
- Make a short list of the pros and cons of each solution. Remember that comparing options will increase your confidence.
- Identify a qualified friend as well as a devil’s advocate to discuss the alternatives. Remember that advice from others usually comes from the intellect.
- Listen to your gut/intuition to determine what feels comfortable and resonates with you. Remember that in the end, you know better than anyone else what is best for you.
- Be aware that the world is in constant flux and you will be able to reassess many of your decisions should you decide they are not working for you in the future.
- Realize that experience is one of the main filters our brain uses to make decisions. It therefore stands to reason that you focus on positive experiences and try to reduce or eliminate internalizing negative ones so that your “database” is populated by optimistic, affirmative information.
- I cannot overstate the importance of a regular simple meditation practice of 15 minutes twice a day to clear the cobwebs. It will help you immensely to analyze all of the above, in addition to having many other benefits.
Bear in mind that whatever you ultimately decide will be the best resolution you could have reached. It may not be completely apparent why in the short term, but in the end I can assure you that it will be an experience you had to undergo to fulfill some as yet possibly unidentified need in your path. I am convinced that nothing in life is random. It just may take a while to connect the dots but there is an Intelligence superior to ours guiding our steps and our prior understanding of all the details does not contribute to the desired outcome.
I hope you will agree that this is both a relevant and fascinating topic. I look forward to seeing your comments and benefiting from your opinions and experiences.